Hi guys! Here I am with another advice post in my “Dear Miss…” series. I know I haven’t done a style post in quite some time but don’t worry I am in the works to get one up in the next week or two. Also, I’m about to talk about body image among women which can be a very controversial topic. I only write these advice posts to help others, not to offend or cause arguments. Keep your comments positive! Although this post may not be for you, it could help a young women out there struggling with this. So nevertheless, lets get into it!
Dear Miss.Not a Size Zero,
Believe it or not, you and I have something in common. I am also not a size zero. And no I’m not merely a size two either. Or a size… ok you get the picture. Basically I’m not a size zero, nor have I ever been, and nor will I ever be. I’ve come to the unfortunate conclusion that I will never be a size zero. That, my body, will never look like those thin girls in the magazines. And the thing is, I’m ok with that. I’ve come to accept my body for the size that it is. And here is why:
Let us start with the basics. I don’t want to be a size zero because my body can’t be. Everyone’s bodies are different and the body you have is due to your genes. Simply, your body is the way it is because your family gave it to you, thanks a lot mom and dad…lol kidding (kinda). Nevertheless, here’s an example, a lot of women in my family gain weight in their butt and thighs. So here I am, I gain my weight in my butt and thighs too. I’d like to point out that maybe no one in your immediate family has your “exact body type” just like mine does, but I guarantee someone out of your entire family is just like you! This point is so obvious, but I wasn’t born with the gene that I can appear thin and still eat whatever I want. But it is more important, instead of envying the girls who have that ability, to just realize that your body is the body you were dealt with. I don’t always love my body 100% of the time, and I don’t have to! But it’s the body I was born with and I have to accept that. It’s a lot less painful to accept and embrace your body, than it is to agonizingly contort and force it to size/shape it wasn’t meant to be. Accepting your body is only doing yourself a favor in terms of your overall happiness.
Second of all, I don’t want to be a size zero because it’s scientifically proven that men actually prefer women with a fuller figure. And here are some important and valid reasons behind this: Full figured women tend to have more curves. Well men actually find curves extremely attractive. Curves are a symbol of feminism! And men find that incredibly sexy. So if you have them, flaunt them! Also men often have referred to fuller figured women as “softer”. Kind of a strange term, but it means that they find fuller figures more comfortable to hug and cuddle with. Who would have ever thought. So many women are self-conscious of their fuller figures because they believe men would prefer them to be skinnier. And yes there are men who do prefer women with an overall skinny figure, but a majority do love a fuller woman! I realize that the opinion of men may not be something all women are concerned with and is in fact something no women should have to feel concerned with at all. But I know inside many of you spend time worried about what men are thinking about your body. I’ve been guilty of it too! So it is important for you to know that your fuller figure is appealing to men. And there is no need to change yourself, just to impress them. You’ll impress them even more when you can show to them that you feel good about the skin you’re in. And that’s the reason this statistic may give some of you the ability to move toward a better body image.
The final reason why I do not want to be a size zero is because being a size zero does NOT make you healthy. And being healthy is far more important to me than it is to be skinny. The correct dictionary definition for the term “health” is, “a person’s mental or physical condition”. No where in that definition does it mention being a size zero. Not that all size zero women are unhealthy, but many women who are naturally very thin don’t usually pay as much attention to the foods they are eating. This is because the foods they eat aren’t affecting their overall physical appearance. This is unfortunate because even if you’re the type of person who is able to eat whatever you want and not gain a single pound, you may not realize what unhealthy foods are doing to you on the inside. We are all given one life to live. And I want mine, no matter what size I am, to be healthy and full. So in order for it to be healthy, I’ve taught myself that eating right is important for my overall well being and is not solely for the purpose of losing weight (by eating right I am referring to eating a lot of whole unprocessed foods and the right amount of them). So I try my best to make good choices in what I put into my body so I can have a long life span free from sickness. But also, in order for my life to be full, I’ve decided to spend my time doing the things that make me happy. And that may be eating a full carton of ice cream or a plate of mozzarella sticks, and that’s totally fine! I’m not going to eat perfect 24/7 because that would be taking away from the happiness my favorite junk foods bring me. That is why it is good to have a balance of being healthy and full. Eat right so that you won’t suffer from sickness or a shortened life span. And be full so that the life you do lead is a happy one.
Accepting and being happy with your body isn’t something that happens overnight. It is a journey, but I believe it is a journey worth taking. I would hate to look back on my life and see that I’ve spent all my time hating my body and/or trying to change it. Living a healthy and full lifestyle is far more important in the long run than the number in your jeans. You are more than the number in your jeans. Always remember that.